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Ота-оналар ва бола ўртасидаги муносабатларни ўрнатишга ёрдам берадиган қоида

Ушбу мақолада мен «дастлабки уч дақиқа» қоидаси ва бу қоида ота-оналар ва бола ўртасидаги муносабатларга қандай таъсир қилиши ҳақида гапирмоқчиман.

«Биринчи уч дақиқа» қоидасининг моҳияти шундан иборатки, ҳар сафар болангиз билан кўришганда (қаерда бўлишингиздан қатъий назар: ишда, дўконда, ит билан сайрда ва ҳк), гўё у билан анчадан бери кўришмагандек саломлашинг. Кучли қучоқлаб, йўқлигингизда бола нима билан шуғуллангани ҳақида саволлар беринг. Нега айнан шундай қилиш муҳим?

Чунки сиз билан бўлган учрашувнинг дастлабки қувончли дақиқаларида, бола сиз билан баҳам кўрмоқчи бўлган барча нарсаларини «тарқатади». Aгар ушбу лаҳзани ўтказиб юбориб, аввал шахсий ишингиз билан шуғулланишга қарор қилсангиз ва кейин боладан унинг куни қандай ўтгани ҳақида сўрасангиз кейин бундан афсусланасиз.

Сиздан дарҳол ҳис-туйғуларни қабул қилмаган бола, сизни кўриши биланоқ, куннинг қолган қисмида орқангиздан юради. Бу шуни англатадики, у сиздан зарур эътиборни олмаган. Сиз келишингиз билан болага қанча вақт сарфлаганингиз ҳам муҳим эмас. Ҳиссий яқинлик муҳимдир.

Катталар «дастлабки уч дақиқа» қоидасини эътиборсиз қолдириши осон. Масалан, болани олиш учун боғчасига келганида, улар бола билан тенглашиб ўтирадилар, усиз зерикканликларини айтишади ва ҳоказо. Сиз мутлақо қарама-қарши бўлган ота-оналарни кўришингиз мумкин, улар шунчаки болани ушлаб олишади ва уни телефондан ажралмасдан олиб қайтишади.

«Биргаликда вақт ўтказиш» ибораси катталар ва бола учун ҳар хил маʼноли юкка эга. Бола ўз иш билан банд бўлганида бу катталар учун жуда яхши. Болада катталар билан кўзма-кўз алоқа қилиш жуда муҳимдир. Бола катталар ёнидадек туюладиган вариантдан мамнун эмас.

Оналар ва дадаларнинг бола билан ўйнашга жуда кам вақти борлиги аниқ. Aммо бундай лаҳзалар пайдо бўлганда, болангизга ўйин-кулгини танлашни таклиф қилманг, у ҳозир сиз билан нима қилишни хоҳлаётганини танлашига йўл қўйинг.

Фарзандларимизнинг қандай улғайишини томоша қилишга вақтимиз йўқ. «Биринчи уч дақиқа» қоидасини унутманг. Бу бизга кичик ёшдан болаларга ишончни ривожлантиришга ёрдам беради.

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at HandleExceptions->handleError(8, 'fwrite(): write of 1749 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded', '/home/judo/public_html/vendor/monolog/monolog/src/Monolog/Handler/StreamHandler.php', 133, array('stream' => resource, 'record' => array('message' => 'ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main}', 'context' => array(), 'level' => 400, 'level_name' => 'ERROR', 'channel' => 'local', 'datetime' => object(DateTime), 'extra' => array(), 'formatted' => '[2025-04-20 21:19:07] local.ERROR: ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main} ')))
at fwrite(resource, '[2025-04-20 21:19:07] local.ERROR: ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main} ')in StreamHandler.php line 133
at StreamHandler->streamWrite(resource, array('message' => 'ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main}', 'context' => array(), 'level' => 400, 'level_name' => 'ERROR', 'channel' => 'local', 'datetime' => object(DateTime), 'extra' => array(), 'formatted' => '[2025-04-20 21:19:07] local.ERROR: ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main} '))in StreamHandler.php line 119
at StreamHandler->write(array('message' => 'ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main}', 'context' => array(), 'level' => 400, 'level_name' => 'ERROR', 'channel' => 'local', 'datetime' => object(DateTime), 'extra' => array(), 'formatted' => '[2025-04-20 21:19:07] local.ERROR: ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main} '))in AbstractProcessingHandler.php line 39
at AbstractProcessingHandler->handle(array('message' => 'ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main}', 'context' => array(), 'level' => 400, 'level_name' => 'ERROR', 'channel' => 'local', 'datetime' => object(DateTime), 'extra' => array(), 'formatted' => '[2025-04-20 21:19:07] local.ERROR: ErrorException: file_put_contents(): write of 204 bytes failed with errno=122 Disk quota exceeded in /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php:122Stack trace:#0 [internal function]: Illuminate\\Foundation\\Bootstrap\\HandleExceptions->handleError(8, \'file_put_conten...\', \'/home/judo/publ...\', 122, Array)#1 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Filesystem/Filesystem.php(122): file_put_contents(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', 2)#2 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/FileSessionHandler.php(83): Illuminate\\Filesystem\\Filesystem->put(\'/home/judo/publ...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\', true)#3 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Store.php(128): Illuminate\\Session\\FileSessionHandler->write(\'gl95p2iCo9dUlmR...\', \'a:4:{s:6:"_toke...\')#4 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Session/Middleware/StartSession.php(88): Illuminate\\Session\\Store->save()#5 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(218): Illuminate\\Session\\Middleware\\StartSession->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#6 /home/judo/public_html/vendor/laravel/framework/src/Illuminate/Foundation/Http/Kernel.php(189): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminateMiddleware(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#7 /home/judo/public_html/public/index.php(58): Illuminate\\Foundation\\Http\\Kernel->terminate(Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Request), Object(Illuminate\\Http\\Response))#8 /home/judo/public_html/server.php(21): require_once(\'/home/judo/publ...\')#9 {main} '))in Logger.php line 344
at Logger->addRecord(400, object(ErrorException), array())in Logger.php line 712
at Logger->error(object(ErrorException), array())in Writer.php line 203
at Writer->writeLog('error', object(ErrorException), array())in Writer.php line 114
at Writer->error(object(ErrorException))in Handler.php line 71
at Handler->report(object(ErrorException))in Handler.php line 35
at Handler->report(object(ErrorException))in HandleExceptions.php line 81
at HandleExceptions->handleException(object(ErrorException))